Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bullying. Show all posts

Sunday, June 5, 2016

Book Review: The Hate List

People hate. That's our reality. People hate and are hated and carry grudges and want punishments ... I don't know if it's possible to take hate away from people. Not even people like us, who've seen firsthand what hate can do. We're all hurting. We're all going to be hurting for a long time. And we, probably more than anyone else out there, will be searching for a new reality every day. A better one ... But in order to change reality you have to be willing to listen and to learn. And to hear. To actually hear.



On May 2 of her junior year, life changed for Valerie and the other students at Garvin High School when her boyfriend opened fire on select students, killing some, injuring others, including Valerie herself.

It begin with the hate list, a list that to Val was nothing more than venting on paper about the people who bullied her, called her "Sister Death" and made her life miserable. But unknown to her, for Nick it became a hit list. 

On the day of the shooting, Val was still angry with Christy who daily bullied her on the bus and the day before had broken her MP3 player. So when Nick said he was going to take care of it for her, she followed him into the school smiling at that the thought that Christy was about to get what she deserved.

But never did she think that Nick planned to kill Christy and the others on the list. Val tries to help the victims and to stop Nick, and finally gets between him and a victim ending the shooting. Val herself is shot in the leg just before Nick kills himself.

The story begins five months later when Val returns to the same school as a senior. Some people consider her responsible for the shootings assuming she was in on the planning, while others consider her a hero for putting herself in harms' way to save another student.

The book uses newspaper accounts to fill in details of the shooting. The rest is told present day as Val returns to school and faces the students who consider her guilty.

While the book is about the aftermath of a school shooting, it's a character driven story. It's Val's story.

There are a lot of things I like about the story:

  • We meet characters who remind us of students just like them that we encountered in our school years (and may have put on our own hate list), or for teens readers, ones they are still encountering.
  • We see the good side of Nick through Val's memories of the times they spent together.
  • We sit in on Val's sessions with a counselor who really cares about her healing.
  • We have a front row seat as Val realizes that the students who bullied her were more than just bullies; they were real kids with their own interests, hobbies and dreams.
  • Even after a year has passed, things haven't magically returned to normal. And they probably never will. But the kids learn to cope and go on.


What bothers me about the story:

  • A lot of kids today are bullied at school, but they don't take a gun to school and hunt down those bullies. Nick is presented as being different, but in real life, he probably would have been a kid with a known mental health issue that had been ignored. 
  • A lot of the students failed to admit their role in the events prior to the shooting. But maybe that is real life.
  • And of course, there is no faith element in the story. God doesn't always stop the crap that happens in real life, but he does help those who turn to him for healing.




The Hate List received three starred reviews and was selected as an ALA Best Book for Young Adults, a VOYA “Perfect Ten,” and a School Library Journal Best Book of the Year.

You can read about the author Jennifer Brown on her website

If you are a teen who is in a school that doesn't feel safe, seek help. If you think someone in your school is dangerous, tell someone.

Safe School Ambassadors is a program for schools. 
The nation's most effective bystander education program harnesses the power of students to prevent and stop bullying and violence. Since 2000, this field-tested and evidence-based model has equipped over 52,000 4-12th grade students in over 1,400 schools in 32 states, 2 Canadian provinces, Guam and Puerto Rico with the communication and intervention skills to prevent and stop emotional and physical bullying and improve school climate. 

Also check out SAVE: Students Against Violence Everywhere

And especially for girl bullies Mean Girls Aren't Cool


I have been working on a list of fiction books that address issues. Please feel free to add books in the comments section.

Books That Address Issues
Emotional Abuse

Physical Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Adoption

Bipolar
This is How I Find Her                     Sara Polsky                                         secular

Bullying
Hate List                                            Jennifer Brown                                   secular
Death of Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles etc

Death by Natural Causes:
The Fault in Our Stars                     John Green                                            secular
Death of Parents

Death of Sibling
There You’ll Find Me                      Jenny B. Jones                                       Christian

Death by Suicide
Thirteen Reasons Why                      Jay Asher                                              secular
All the Bright Places                        Jennifer Niven                                        secular
I Was Here                                       Gayle Forman                                         secular

Depression
I Was Here                                        Gayle Forman                                         secular

Eating Disorders
There You’ll Find Me                      Jenny B. Jones                                          Christian


 School Shooting
The Hate List                                  Jennifer Brown                                         secular

Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Movie Review: To Save a Life

This is a Christian movie that deals with teen issues including suicide.


At one time Jake was best friends with Roger, who was hit by a car saving Jake. Roger is different from then on, walking with limp and unable to play sports. By high school, Roger is an outcast and Jake becomes a basketball star. By his senior year, Jake has everything going for him—he’s a basketball star with a college scholarship, a beer pong champion, and has a gorgeous girlfriend. But his life is turned upside down when Roger ends his life.

Jake starts to take a look at his life and gets involved with a church youth group. While he’s starting to get his life straightened out, everything seems to be falling apart around him. His dad is cheating on his mom, his girlfriend is pregnant and the cool kids are turning on him.
Jake has to chose which way he will go. Will he do the right thing or follow his original plans.


Although a movie with a message, this movie shows drinking, some sexual activity (nothing shows, it’s left to your imagination), and a four letter word or two.


The movie addresses important issues—suicide, teen pregnancy, indifference, drinking, bullying etc. The problem is that some of the movie is a bit preachy and that might be a turn off to some teens. Others may be able to identify with one or more of the characters. This movie could be shown in a youth group setting or a club such as FCA, FCS, Life Line, Campus Life or by families. It would be best shown in  a situation that allows for discussion.

You can find the movie website HERE
You can read a full review of the movie on Plugged In online